The Silent Plea of Wives

She isn’t asking for diamonds.

She isn’t asking for candlelit dinners under the stars.

What she’s really begging for—sometimes with words, sometimes with silence—

is something far rarer in today’s world: TIME!

Ten minutes without your phone.

A look that lingers.

A conversation that doesn’t end in hurry.

A pause that whispers, “You still matter. I still choose you.”

Why She Keeps Asking

To some husbands, it feels repetitive. “Didn’t we just sit yesterday?”

But for her, it’s not repetition—it’s survival.

Science tells us that when women love, their bodies release oxytocin, the bonding hormone.

It makes her long for closeness, reassurance, connection. When that need isn’t met, her nervous system feels it like hunger left unfed.

She doesn’t want “more.” She simply wants to feel safe in love.

For men, though, stress works differently.

Biology nudges them to withdraw, to fix problems silently, to carry weight alone.

So when she reaches out, he may step back—

not because he doesn’t care, but because his wiring says, “cope quietly.”

This is the great mismatch of love:

She reaches out, he retreats.

She feels unseen, he feels pressured.

Two hearts hurting, but in opposite ways.

What Husbands Can Do

Offer rituals, not just moments - A nightly check-in. A morning smile. Little anchors of presence.

Speak the small words - “I see you. I missed you. Thank you.”

Resist fixing - She doesn’t need solutions. She needs you.

What Wives Can Do

Ask gently, not with blame - “Can we sit together for 10 minutes?” will always open more doors than “You never spend time with me.”

Honor the attempts - Even small gestures are seeds that grow into habits.

A Note to Wives

Your longing is not weakness....it is biology, it is love. He may not yet know the language of connection you crave.

But love can be taught, and gentleness is the best teacher.

A Note to Husbands

She isn’t asking for hours.

She isn’t asking for grand gestures.

She’s asking for your eyes, your ears, your heart for the reminder that amidst the noise of the world, she is still your chosen one.

To her, love does not look like fixed faucets or paid bills. It looks like you sitting beside her, saying with your silence, “I see you. I am here. You are not alone.”

The Heart of It All

When a wife begs for time, she isn’t asking for luxury.

She’s asking for intimacy.

For proof that in the chaos of children, careers, and endless demands.....you still see her.

And when you give her that—

not in hours, not in diamonds, not in holidays but in undistracted presence…

She softens.

You feel enough.

And together, you both find us again.

Because love is not measured in hours.

It’s measured in presence.

In the heartbeat of a moment.

In the miracle of simply saying, l still choose you.

 “See me. Sit with me. Choose me.”

That is the prayer behind every wife’s request for time.

---Nidhiya's Amma.-